Thursday, March 31, 2016

The Stories We Tell, by Keltie Squires




I’ve always been surrounded by literature and stories. Growing up, both of my parents made sure of three things in my reading life—that they read to me, that there was never a lack of books and stories for me to read, and that my reading was never limited by my age. I am incredibly grateful.
            As a young, weird kid who read too much and struggled to find a social circle, I saw myself in characters like Anne Shirley—an eccentric daydreamer who didn’t always identify with the world around her.  Like Anne, I fell in love with stories of worlds that were nothing like mine. The Hobbit was deeply impactful on my 9-year-old imagination. Sherlock Holmes, A Midsummer Night’s Dream, and The Odyssey were, admittedly, beyond my grasp at times, but I was still enthralled with the worlds in these books.  Star Wars was practically my religion. However, it wasn’t until I grew older that I started to notice a trend—these stories that I loved so much were not written for me. I was nowhere to be found in them. Women who were fleshed-out, independent, and important characters had limitations, or served the purposes of the male characters (cue Princess Leia in a gold bikini). More often than not, they didn’t appear at all.
The Lord of the Rings remained my favourite book for most of my teen years, and birthed a shameless period of FanFic writing among my friends and me. In hindsight, I can see what caused that—a need to see myself in the things that I loved the most. While it was acceptable for the men in the books I read to be smart, tough, witty, and diverse characters with human flaws and engaging character arcs, it was not the same for the women. 
            The older I got, the more I realized that what was missing in the books I read was also missing in real life. You could be the tough girl, but the tough girl was undesirable and unattractive. You could be the pretty girl, but the pretty girl wasn’t smart, and she was usually only a commodity to be gained or earned. You couldn’t be the smart girl, because for many men she doesn’t exist. To this day, men constantly tell me I’m wrong or question me. I’ve been snubbed in comic shops, even though I run a comic book club. I’ve been told I have bad taste in movies for naming my favourite films. Once, a man insisted to me that there is only one Deathstar in the Original Star Wars Trilogy (there’s two). My male friends never have this problem.
            In spite of this experience, I can slowly see the limitations beginning to fade away. In the past few years, there have been stories of women I could identify with—all my flaws and strengths included—but I could also see women who are my friends and family in the same stories. These are stories of women I admire. Notably, Mad Max: Fury Road. I couldn’t have predicted at the start of the year how much a dystopian car-chase action movie would mean to me. To see these women—disabled, pregnant, of all ages and races—saving themselves, and often the men around them, was one of the most powerful experiences I’ve ever had in a movie theatre. The image, ‘WE ARE NOT THINGS,’ written on a wall behind an older woman holding a rifle, is not one I will ever forget. Beyond that, who would have thought we would ever see a female Jedi? Star Wars: The Force Awakening gave us Rey. I would have loved a character like that when I was a child.
The dialog is changing. Diversity is something we talk about now in a different way, and it is changing our perceptions of each other.  If we want to continue to better understand each other, our struggles and our beautiful differences, then we need to keep striving for better representation in the stories we tell.